Do Not Struggle Emotions.Be a Survivor.

I believe many of us struggle a lot to keep our faith intact. To keep ourselves from becoming weak, feel lonely or broken. I display strength and do not want to show my emotions even in the most hair rising situations. I believe I have worked hard to be where I am and that has made me tough from outside, I do not want to give away so easily for I still have faith, for I am ready to work harder for few more years’ at least.

We at times do not feel a rush for we want to give life & faith another chance, but we struggle to fight it out. Sometimes we feel difficulty, to express it, to convey it and to make others realize how we feel inside.

At times we feel like this, and at times we find everyone around so preoccupied. Who the hell in this world is around to lend an ear and listen and say that they really ‘do care’? There are times when we will find an answer – ‘No One’.

Do not panic. Do not Struggle. Vent out and gain power from within.

Find friends, share, talk within or shift the focus. Many a times, the problem you are facing will not be understood, people would not accept the fact or show escapism. And it should not worry you, it should not cause pain in your nerves. Lord Shiva says, “If the other person is not ready to fight for himself, and you feel the need to fight for them, Go Fight, for what you do is your Karma and stop thinking about them or why they didn't do it”.

I came across a quote, “If they don’t fight for you, they are not right for you.” Agreed, take the quote in positive spirits. For it doesn't mean they are wrong, it only suggests you need to fight for yourself, keep your focus and follow the right direction. That is the beauty of Karma.

I see lot of intolerance around, people want to find flaws and act at that moment. Decisive acts. Don’t struggle to take a decision. Give the circumstance sometime, let the situation be tolerant enough to sit, accept, understand and opinionated. Anger is an enemy of right decisions. This doesn't mean you become an option for right times, it only means gain strength, think rational and then decide about the situations that cropped because of anger, despair. Do Not Struggle to take Instant Decisions.

Talk to friends, for they are God sends. I am sure most of them will be busy or will not care to revert. They are acquaintances. Find friends not those who are there for a reason or season but those few lifetime friends – who genuinely care.

Do Not Struggle with the fear of big mouths. What has happened or happening was the will of God, learn from your mistakes and move on. Accept the fact and live life. We are not here to exist and spend life. We are blessed with a life to make most of it.

Do not Struggle to make it Big. Just keep focus, keep passion, keep faith and Live it. Be a Survivor and not a Victim.

There is No Evil.

Two days back I finished the part I of Shiva Trilogy and by the end I got a lesson. There is no evil, this is what the savior is told by a saint when he is in going through the anxious phase of self-guilt, when he is reaching God to answer him whether he has done right or wrong. Whether he has brought an end to the evil or he did a wrong decision.

This is when he is told by a God send, that there is no evil. It is just that people are different in the world over. Rules of one could be the restrictions for other. One could prefer vibrant as happiness and other could feel sober as peace. One could mean no laws second could mean laws for all.

If we think of these things in our regular life, we can find so many answers. Imagine the differences our society has created in the everyday life – the difference in opinions, the choices to be made, all these rights are snatched on the pretext on religion, viewpoints, cast, creed, social status etc.

We are succumbing to the unnecessary reasoning like what dress to wear where, make-up or no-make-up, why eating non-vegan is a crime, why alcoholics are bad people, who people should marry, why a neighbor’s luxury should be envied until we have them too. How money makes someone inferior/superior, how people are getting in a mad-rush to achieve not what gives them happiness but what takes them a level up from others.

People even do not have their own dreams. I feel they never got to dream for they were brought up with the imposed rules, rules which give more sense of achievement then the sense of belonging. Sadly, there are certain customs & values in our Indian system which make people, bound them and force them to restrict their own happiness. But that’s not fair for each one should be taught & brought up with the only one message – ‘there is no evil’, what you did during a certain situation doesn't brand you as good or bad. It is what best could be done at that particular moment.

Start telling yourself right from this moment, “I will fear No Evil”.

Keep Faith. 

Growing up needs Courage!

Running away from things is never a good thing. Face it from front is what I have always been taught! What a bad phase it would have been that I had almost thought to not accept the Birthday Wishes because I was cursed for my being and for treating it as a reason to celebrate. The freedom to be me in my own way was gone and I am trying to get to terms with it. 

Now that I am getting messages about Many Happy Returns of the Day, I wonder what people who know of it are trying to say! And then I am telling myself –

Come on! I can’t still keep my happiness for them who treated me as a back-up plan! The post is certainly not about me or I. But it is more about ‘we’. I turned 31 today and I wonder what went wrong and where? I am an individual first and at least that should be taken as it is. I am not asking anyone for any undue favors, I don’t beg you for generated love and never am I going to demand materialist favors.  I firmly believe – every human being on this planet deserves – to be treated with humanity & respect. 

And wondering that I realized, I can abandon myself from the love of friends and family for these are the people who always remind me - that I am certainly 'God's favorite kid.'

I am happy for those who want me to be happy. Those who believed that I am a human and deserve to be treated as one.

I am happy for those who chose to ignore me and all the great memories we co-created. 

I am happy for what happened, at-least I got to know more about life. I learned it quite early and I am sure it saved me a hemorrhage.

I am thankful to the God for giving me this life and to keep me calm enough to realize that we get only one life. 

I am thankful for the people around me who are reason enough to make me believe that life itself is a reason enough to ‘smile’.

I am thankful to people who without knowing about my circumstances, on hearing a timid voice say things like – ‘No you can’t be tired yet – you have a long way to go’

I am thankful to my younger brother- who said, ‘It is my sister’s birthday so that should be a reason enough for you to celebrate’

I am thankful for Google Doodle which read, ‘Happy Birthday Jigyasa’ as I launched chrome this morning on my machine. 

I am thankful to my grandparents for wishing me the most genuine wishes of my day as they make me realize that I was born special and still hold that special place in their hearts and mind.

I am thankful to friends who took time to wish me and those who surprised me my doing so. 

Alas, I am thankful and may God always make my life one; to be thankful of.

All this makes life a little simpler and helps me breathe feeling, ‘I am thankful to be’. And then I found this tweet as the day was coming to an end – “You can’t fight every battle. Choose which ones are worth fighting and let the others go."

The Twisted Tales of Karma!

Often I have seen people blaming karma for what is happening around them. They play double standards I believe – On one side, they worship God and try to please him for their own fancies and on the other hand they blame the karma – how is that possible?

Either God or you yourself should be held responsible for it. You cannot keep on shifting preferences and hence allegations. Why can’t humans take charge? Why do they need to depend on others to take their own decision? If this is a societal role – then what role does the society plays in handling troubles of an individual? Ah! Yes they listen and console and sometimes make some stories too.

Life is about living with peace and happiness around you, in your soul. You must practice it. Have a dream and live for it. That is your Karma, God has sent you on this earth for that very reason.

The society only acts as a big hurdle. Few days back, I came across a saint, I found out he completed his Doctorate degree and has written numerous books. I was even more impressed to talk to him. His academic talent created a belief in me that he isn’t a God man; he is an anchor and may be a better human being who has got lot many things to share with me.

I asked him, I have heard that there are many phases of life which a man/woman should go through and that makes them complete, so is it really so? Does it works like that? Do we need to prove the completeness to the society by following their whims?

And he said, NO.

He further said, it is your Karma that makes a life complete or incomplete. It is not through worship, life phases and your subsequent achievements like an education, a career, and mother hood for that matter.  He explained that it is your ‘Karma’ that makes a life, a birth complete or incomplete and nothing else.

If you are using the food you consume and the energy it creates in a right way for a good cause, that is karma and that is what makes you complete or incomplete. It is the deeds that count and not the parameters set by the society. He says if you know what you are doing is good, live courageously and follow the path.

He said all this in so simple words and I for once felt that he came like a God send to help me get better in life, to start living beyond the twisted tales of Karma.

He gave me few books to read and I came back content. I was happy that God has a plan for me and he has hinted me about it.

I am doing my karma…..are you?

Life without touch-ups!

We all should always try to lead a life without touch-ups! It is real and it keeps the essence maintained. The natural beauty, the real meaning and quintessential life is the one without touch-ups.

Imagine a picture, when you see it without touch-ups, it certainly makes you smile but when you try to make it better it leaves you analyzing and when you try to perfect it – it loses the essence.  

Why is it becoming necessary for most of us to lead a perfect life? What is a perfect life? Is it the one which we see others living, is it one which we read in the books, page 3 and celluloid.  No, life is all about small & simple moments of happiness we create, we share and also about those moments which test us on our faith.

Live Simple. Stop Comparing

Is is not life just perfect when we live it simplified? Now I am not trying to pull in any old school or new school philosophy when I use the word simplified.  

Simplified here suggests, the way it makes us happy. Why complicate it with comparisons, with adaptations to fit the bill. Where are we trying to fit ourselves into and with whom and why for all reasons?

Have Choices. Take Decisions

I love the present day youth for this reason. They don’t believe in any race. They all want to be cool in their own ways. The young parents of today do not want to impose things on their kids; they want them to grow, to learn and most importantly to CHOOSE for them.

I have observed, a child who grows in such an environment becomes a better human being, a bright professional and is always considered approachable socially. Because he/she has learnt to adapt, to talk out and to share fearlessly because they know they will be heard, understood and once again not forced to follow decisions.

Give Space. Nourish Relationships

Be it your personal or professional life you need to give space. This space is important not just to nourish relationships but also to live healthy and grow healthy. Healthy Relationships are the key to success at work, it leads to strong bonds of friendship, trust and makes everyone is them empowered.

By saying giving space, I mean to allow them to be on their own in thoughts, viewpoints and situations. This works to bring in the sense of responsibility. When they know – you are there to help them always, they develop the sense of belonging and this confidence helps them face life with face up, no matter what.

Choice is always yours. Choose to lead a life with No Touch-ups! Like an Image, life too will not leave its essence. Have a Happy Life, Stay Blessed.

Take a LEAP of faith. Stay JUSTIFIED

This is about the situations where most of us felt-like being left let down. We were left breath choked, we got hurt and we realized that someone we tried to help selflessly is/was just not worth it.

Whatever be the case, I always feel that – we shall not be judgmental. Somehow, my conscience-my instincts- my parents always made me believe so. I do have had opinions but I used to let go of situations and people as I was firm that sometimes actions are commanded by the situations and we shall not allow our mind to set a frame of that particular person.

We need to understand – if people value us in their life or people value for being ourselves. If they value you for being there in life – they will love you, care for you and most importantly listen to you. While the others will never be good listeners, they will love & care pertaining to what they have to say to you and if you are talking to them – as they want to listen from you. If this is not the case – you better watch out. This is not gonna take you anywhere, if you have a tendency to ignore and be good, take care of yourself.

I remember, once my soft-skills teacher had said in a counseling session, – "It is good to be good but at times, you need to tell the other person ‘that you can be bad too’". He has asked me to be a little shrewd and on asking – what he was saying, he had explained that world is neither full of compassion and nor in habituates only the good people like I might be thinking. I always realized it whenever my goodness was put to test or I was hurt by a close one but then – I felt ‘It’s good to be good. It keeps us at peace’.

But today, I am heartbroken. I never expected this, I did not even ever thought that in the farthest of thoughts that I would think of being fair to myself, would actually pray to God to give me the strength ‘to allow me to tell others – that yes, I can be bad too’, to feel inside that – yes, I know you have been great all through your life, your patience might have surpassed all the kindness of manhood but please DO NOT expect the same from me. Allow me – to take stand for my own self respect so that in my mind and soul – I live & die JUSTIFIED. 

Saying all that, I am thankful to GOD that on taking a deep breath – I can still get some relief. In tears, I am thankful to Almighty that he gave me parents – who always told me to stand firm, my Dad always told me to be righteous and to be so fearlessly. 

-------I left this post at this point some 4 days ago! And now when i still thought of sharing it here, I wonder, It is good to be forgetful and forgiving should be revived. Alas! I rest my case with a same notion like always--- if God is watching us all the time, we shall just keep doing things in good faith. 

Sisterly Love!

This one is for my l'll sister with whom - I am bound to argue when we meet in person and stay together for like more than a day!!!! Thats how sisters are....

It's been long - I posted something! A friend reminded me this morning and now while I was chatting to my sis in prose - she suggested, Post it Di! And here we go...

Disclaimer: Chinks - is how I call my sister fondly! She is a fitness freak, a fashion designer currently associated with Ritu Kumar and never goes out of the lectures for me staying fit!!! You might feel this is silly - but I am posting it on my space because I feel whenever 

I 'll get back here, I will smile :)

Hey chinks

My minks

I hope my body shrinks

So that there are no obese links

Face & Figure in syncs

And i look pinks

Eyes ping - Phones ring

Heart sinks, lot of drinks!

Ah! Chinks ...lolz