Saturday, July 24, 2021

My moon talk on the ‘Full Moon’ Day



Since a few days I have been trying to get back to a routine. Evening walk is a part of it and since I usually get late, I noticed the moon in its grandeur. It was so beautiful that I changed my regular path – because I wanted to have a look, then one more and another. Trust me it was probably the most beautiful thing I had seen in a while (thanks to the lockdown and the pandemic protocols), it was mesmerizing. 


A little secret is, I often talk to the moon. Considering it knows me inside out, I only talk to the moon in prayers (code language). Last month I did so while walking with 'Thandi Hava', that’s the latest name I have given to Karman (my nephew), and we both prayed together. His little company and long chats, the super unexpected logics and detailing inspires me. 

Why I find moon so relatable?

  • The patience. 
  • The silent shine that lights up the dark. 
  • The peace, with which it travels through the phases. Unlike humans it never complains, what I mean is – that the sun still scorches us sometime , may be it gets worked up too. 
  • The fact, that a moon is still a moon in all its phases. Whatever we may call it, it keeps going and lives on faith.
  • The moon understands its phases and never lets the judgements affect it. Just like us humans, it dips into the dark, it brightens, it does gets faded and it tolerates the rains but it stays.
  • The simplicity, the full moon stare is spiritual, romantic and full in itself. It reminds you of your powers, it always walks with you. It teaches us to never get threatened.
  • The best thing, it is always there, checks on us every day and it never disappears. 
  • The moon walks along protecting us even on the roads that we need to take alone. Just me, moon and God. 

Habitual over thinker that I am, surfed through Moon signs and the impact…..don't worry I am not the blind follower kind (in such cases I reaffirm to stay positive) but I did explored (deep inside I feel they are God’s signal to me) and this is what I got, Your full-moon affirmation: I love, accept, and integrate who I was and who I am now becoming.
 
See I told you, they are God’s messages to me. He told me to focus, he is not pained about me becoming me, he wants me to ride on, work hard and live it up. 

Sunday, September 27, 2020

Daughters Day, If I had a daughter!

This daughter's day I have a thought wandering across my mind. Alright I know these days were born considering the commercial viabilities but the day got me thinking! And I wondered, what if I had a daughter! About all these days around relationships, love, peace, environment - well the world would be a better place if we celebrate each day as such a special day. 

 


When you ask Google, about Daughters Day in India it says, International Daughters Day on the fourth Sunday in September celebrates the girl child. The observance originated in India where, even today, some cultures see girl children as burdens. Guess what! We ever have a National Girl Child day! Girls after all are so so special that people who love them generously risk making six, seven and even 10 of them (thats the maximum I have witnessed) in the hope of a boy. Irony!

 

Being surrounded by my beautiful nieces and many women who intrigued me, instigated me, made me weak, I had an urge to write-down the thoughts that have been running through my mind.

 

If I had a daughter what would it be like, will I teach her empathy or I will let her cry. Would she be a fighter or the one with a victim cry.

 

I will make her aware of her abilities and her deserving rights. I wouldn't give her the lessons that allow others to decide your limits of suffice.

 

She would have a lesson to respect others with her head high. There isn't a charm in following the worldly regulations that guide a woman to reprise.

 

Don't worry, be strong. Do this and Do that, speak like this and hide like that, no that's not going to be the narrative.

 

If I had a daughter I would tell her, Don't worry be strong, You gonna make it through anyway. And only you can do it, so take charge and march on. It's your life, you know how you want to live it.

 

Do not shame anyone because you wouldn't appreciate being shamed. If I had a daughter I would tell her this instead of telling her to connect, indulge with people only if you need them or run away if you are in a fix. I would tell her to face it with a chin up and be enough to handle what life offers.

 

If I had a daughter, I would never tell her to do something or not do something because she is a girl. I would tell her the rights and wrongs and the pros and cons.

 

I would tell her to get married, stay married and make kids when she is ready and feels for it. If I had a daughter I would never tell her that this is what she is in the world for.

 

I would save her from this world so chaotic about a gender, the judgements, the protocols, the one sided demarcations and decorums. If I had a daughter I would tell her it's good to have her opinion, be candid and conscious. I feel that would make her conscientious and I would wish that for all the daughters. 

 

I would recommend her spirituality that helps her keep calm and save her from the rituals that set her boundaries and sets her life on alarm. If I had a daughter I would ask her to be true to herself, follow, worship and live the rituals that add up to her days.

 

I know I am the conservative kinds. But I am not the feminist kinds, may be judgemental at times but I try to not judge every time.

 

If I had a daughter I would ask her to be strong as that is the only way to keep the deafening opinions away!

 

If I had a daughter I would tell her to learn self love, comfort herself before teaching her how to keep everyone pleased. No that would not mean to be self-centred or be selfish, that would mean making herself-suffice. 

 

That would be about telling her to do things she totally feels for. That would mean to not make her happiness, her respect and her life dependent on others. Because this creates a lot of gap not just in the minds of daughters but even in the society at large.

 

If I had a daughter I would tell her to stand for good, speak for the right and keep the chin up without a fright. She would know unconditional love and the without benefits, so that she never judges and allows the benefit of doubt or trust. For this would keep her sane and positive all her life. 

 

If I had a daughter she would be allowed to take risks with a promise to keep her back as she must not falter. This to empower her trust and save her from all breakage. I would wish her to be more mindful and less about minding your own business. 

 

I will tell her to embrace challenges and not to succumb because she is a girl. I will explain to her the capabilities before the lesson of grabbing opportunities.

 

If I had a daughter she would be allowed to be her own. She would work, worship and wander as these are her rightful choices. She would only be guided on the part of right and wrong and she would be trusted with her choices as that's what a family should do. 

 

She would be given the orientation rather than forcing the views. She would be raised with logic and not the worldly view! 


Disclaimer: For all those who know me, who judge me and nudge me, this is just a piece of write-up that cropped in my mind after having several observations on how people define a world so differently to a female (read with gender based guidelines). Request you to kindly not link it to being feminist or not being a mom. The piece is an accumulation of thoughts that knocked my mind a hundred times while observing how our surroundings define the world differently to a girl child, a woman, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a daughter-in-law and even mothers. 

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Defying all ODDs



I am stuck in your lies
The relationship defies 

I feel a little less 
It's all a huge mess

I talk my mind 
Let's not play games 

By making a fool of me in the hindsight 
I wish to disappear from your world your sight 

It no right & wrong 
It's a little fight in my mind 

You killed my opportunities 
You kept a single focus sight 

You need me - you play with me 
You never trust me or care 

You lie you defy and you never share 
You make me wonder always if you really do care!! 

You taught me 
Now sort me 
Hate me just say me 
Why give me this loaned care.. 

There's no point to prove right!
It just doesn't feel fair..

My mum says my dad feels
I am a gem so rare! 

This is how you defy me 
O dear! you just don't care! 

Tuesday, April 7, 2020

Maa Kehti Thi Pari Hun Mein :)


Maa kehti thi pari hun mein
Papa ki sar chadhi hun mein

Yaad atta hai padhayi ki tension le jaana
Papa ka ye kehna exam dene hi na jaana

Maa ka mere sapno ke liye lad jaana
Dadu ka tvs pe books dilane le jaana

Dadi ka door padhai ke naam pe muh ​fulana
Fir apne haath se parantha khilana

Nanihaal mein sabse badi hun mein... 
Poocho koi nani se...aaj bhi sar chadi hun mein...

Raub to hona hi tha...nani ki, mama ki...
Bhaiyon ki aur behno ki...sabki Ladli hun mein....

Bua ka debates ki tayyari karana
Tau ka aate jaate per chuu ke jai mata ki keh jaana

Bhaiyon ka aage peeche cycle pakad ke sikhana
Behno ke saath mein khilkhilana

Wo kehte the bel hai wo mein ped ka tana..
Chota sa bhai​ jab​ mer​i​ doli vidaa karne chala..

Dhoondna pada tha usko...
Thaka so gaya tha pandaal mein...

Khush rehna harhaal mein...kehke kar diya vida
Ab jeevan hai sasural mein...aur kar diya alvida...

Aaj neend nahi aayi ...
Aur ghar yaad aa gaya....

Covid19 ka isolation...
Kavita kehla gaya....

Jeevan badalta rehta hai....
Dadu ne kahani sunayi thi....

Jaise jaane se pehle ... tayyari karayi thi..
Bole Shrestha jeevan uss daasi ka hota hai...

Jiska din-raat kewal uska farz hota hai...
Weh karm kar so jaati hai aur utth kaam par lag jaati hai.... 

Use na koi moh aur na koi dwesh hota hai...
Baat keh kar wo akasmat hi chale gaye...

Mano shiksha dekar jeevan ka falsafa de gaye...
Aaj bhi jab bhai-behen milkar sab baat karte hai...

Jeevan ki thakaan ka sanhaar karte hai..
Wo bachpan ke baaton ka pitara khol dete hai ....

Kuch pal ki thitholi mein jee bhar ke Hans lete hai...
Aur fir se nayi dincharya ka aarambh hota hai....

Kya aap ke bhi jeevan mein aisa sab hota hai....
Jo bhi ho jeevan mein bachpan bejod hota hai...

Sab chooth jata hai beech mein kahin....
Par ghar bhar ka pyar bejod hota hai...

Ab yaad aati hai bahut...
jab do pal ka chain hota hai...

harpal ye ehsaas hota hai....
Kyun maa kehti thi pari hun mein....

Sampooran


Hum saath the....
Pareshaani nahi thi....
Majboori thi...umeed thi...
Nakaami nahi thi...

Doori thi....hausla tha...
Naumeedi nahi thi... 

Ab na tum ho....aur na ummed hai....
Chhat hai...par aasmaan nahi hai...
Khwaab hai...raasta hai ...
Par manzil nahi hai...

Wo kal bhi mook the...
Wo aaj bhi maun hai....
Haalat hai ....koshish hai...
Par safalta nahi hai...

Raat hai...sannata hai...
Par neend nahi hai...
Kya chahti thi ye duniya mujhse....
Bahu to hai par wo maa nahi hai...

Wo beti thi...aurat hai...
Par sampooran nahi hai...
Dekhe sapne use haq hai...
Par khushiyon ki talab na rakhe...

Ye samaaj hai..Jise apne huzoom pe naaz hai...
Ye koi do logon ka rishtaa nahi hai...
Iski sharte hai jo poori na ho....
To poore khwabon ki bhi ye adhoora rakhe...

Utth kar baith gayi mein...
Shayad jehen sawal kar raha tha...

Itni dhradh hokar aise sochti ho...
Itna un-uchit to samaaj nahi hai...

Aur fir uss parmatma ka dhyaan kiye..
Kuch sawaal jawaab kiye...
Aur wo bole sojaa ab...hausla rakh ....
Karm kar....tere liye mera saath yahi hai ....

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Smiling Star - My Grandpa

This bday as they say is no more the same, 
The excitement the craze is long lost n gone,

The people who twinkled blessings thru the eyes,
Are no more around, the sun kissed candle lights have touched a weird dawn

Who blessed me, who pampered are now so far, 
The spirits are tampered with shallowness n no charm

My grandpa is no more, he is smiling as a star...
My blessings are doubled, I feel he is pouring his charm

God is been gracious in knowing what I need....
He blessed me with perseverance n resilience as my years count

The wishes are pouring from north & south.....
I feel a little older as the child in me departs....

The maturity makes a lot of sense....but a responsibility surmounts.....
It was a lot easy when candles on cake, we could count.....

Growing up is just a number....and there is more to growing wiser n sound.....
I put the pen down as the feeling shall not mount.....

I feel a little crazy about these celebrations.....
Is it age catching up or life has found better reasons....

I sigh and I wonder what goes that comes around...
People with such positive vibes are strategically placed around... 

Is this my grandpa telling the God's to be around 
Or these are the angels blessing me on the efforts with constant sounds...


Thank u for the wishes...the thoughts n the remembrance.....believe me I know this that each wish does counts....!!!

Friday, May 1, 2015

Papa ji - Our Rockstar


Papa ji – that is how we call our grandfather fondly. And now when I am pretty grown up to understand the world ways, I am thankful we dint call him Dada Ji. He was no way less than a father to me or my family.

I lost him on April 23rd and I feel life will not be the same. Like I know Lord Shiva is by my side, I feel my grandpa will be my side too but the realization that he won’t be around anymore – is nagging, it irks me and brings tears. I was and still known as – his favorite grandchild. But you know what – it doesn’t matters, for I always maintained that I am God’s favorite child – whether he showers blessings or he tests my patience. I know he is around and for some reason he took away Papa ji – that too suddenly. He was doing Ok – health wise and otherwise. He lived like a rockstar and now he is a 'star' up above in the sky.

I and my family are finding it difficult to cope – because he was very much a family man. We celebrated his last B’Day in October - all together. We feel blessed about the day – we gave him a happy b’day though we dint knew it was going to be the last with him around.

May be I am writing so much, because I saw death so closely for the first time, by this day I had not thought about it or about losing a closed one in a fraction of seconds.  At the funeral – I overheard people saying that he went like a blessed soul – because he dint feel any pain or problem and he dint of course let anyone know that he is going away. It was a normal routine day – he went for the walk, played with my niece and everything just so normal. And I get a call in the evening – with the news that he is gone.

There is absolutely no denying the fact that he was the most attached family member to everyone, a caring husband, a friendly father, concerned father-in-law, fantastic uncle and a doting grand dad I ever came across. And he had this forever ‘ZEST’ for life and to ‘LEARN’.

Life ‘goes’ on – I have learnt this in the last week but the memories come to me every day in each moment.  Whether it was my fee installments for the 2 years of my MBA or the engagement day, he was with me. He used to keep the record and remind dad about my course fee installments or it was my first step to enter the new life or new family – he took me arm to arm.

He was extra-proud of me.  On my first flight – he called to ask me, how was my first flight? I remember I used to call him on each important day of my life- an exam, an interview or a speaking event. I have had the best of conversations with him – On spirituality and books.

Whatever he would read or relate or feel lonely at times – he used to call up & share. Funny it might sound, but he used to call me to complaint about my grand ma and even his grand children. He was always a Best Friend and now will be my BFF till the end of life.

Another best thing about him is, he used to maintain a Family tree record. I am sure not everyone has read it – but he used to update it. He had his own Facebook well maintained even before I was born. He used to update all life events – my dad’s wedding to my wedding and even the details like High School, Senior Secondary and our Graduations are well tuned into it. Latest being the birth of my niece & nephews.

Sharing below the things is learnt from him:

1. Be Cool. Eat well, sleep on time, and worship God and just chill.
2. Live Life and Appreciate beauty.
3. Age is just a number, it doesn’t suggest – one should stop learning.
4. Love children. Do Good for the orphans. Service to mankind - the needy, the orphan or the underprivileged  is better then religious service. 
5. Respect Women. (I do not remember a single incident of him telling us to not do something because of being a girl) 
6. Care for your partner and the family.
7. Keep Working and maintain good health.
8. Eat what you like. It is ok to experiment with food.
9. Celebrate life and the little events of it.
10. Read – it helps.
11. Forgive easily. That only makes you better.
12. Keep Faith in God. Just do your job.
13. Stand your heads up - it is you who know what you are. 
14. Follow trends, keep yourself updated with the world.


Not that you are gone but you are more with us now for we all know that you are a family man and you just cannot be away from us. And I know you will always be around. 

Love you Papa ji.