Friday, April 18, 2008

Life is short, let's not get angry!!

For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson


Have been pondering since morning, that most of the times it’s our ‘Good Intentions’ that put us into unnecessary problems. Well, most of the times they do. The bad temper is of course the reason of not being able to convey the right thoughts in right approach at the right moment.
Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.”
- Dr. Laurence J. Peter quotes

When you think of good, ought to take a right step, suddenly something irritates you and the good become a thing of past. Emotions overflow (read: explode) and here you are, already a culprit. No matter, what your intentions were. Your anger made you lost the beauty of that moment, that hour, that evening, that day or may be more. And we end up loosing the opportunity to smile, to laugh, to hug and some moments to cherish, may be.

I have been coming across many presentations, articles and discussions on Anger Management but then do they really help us in someway? I was thinking that any therapy of this kind is more mental then medicinal. If one thinks one can control oneself, he/she surely can. But when one doesn’t even try to understand and denies listening to the other person the problem increases. People get angry on petty differences of opinion, view, choices etc.
When anger rises, think of the consequences”
- Confucius
Worst is when that a situation is stretched and stretched for a longer time period. We forget to realize that, to show 1 minute of anger we are loosing 60 seconds of happiness. And this 2 digit number makes a better impact. Anger is also a cause of stress, high blood pressure etc which again gives more moments of panic and suffering. Where as, if we plan to sort out the differences in the soonest possible time and get ready for more smiles, life will be easier. All one needs is acceptance & patience.
Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”
- Buddha

15 comments:

Kaua said...

hey sensitive,

that was a good read n much needed for me :)
i m acually v hot-tempered...my frnds call me pressure cooker...hehe

but no since i ahve started working due to sum lessons i ahve been able to control bt thr is lots of scope 2 improve...
coz acc to me pppl who get angry fast generally belong to the impatient lot n once u begin to gt patient wid things slowly u calm down :P

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@kaua....the pressure cooker!! hehe

Yeah I agree to this, most of the times life teaches lessons which are worthy keeping and then thrz always a scope for improvement. What is good is one realise that.
So Chillz and keep smiling!!

Have a happy weekend!!

Chakoli said...

:_))))


Wow wt a nice thot to start the week...and too fr a person like me...who is so short tempered:-(((

I m wrking on it...and have ctrlled it a lot...but still i burst out...aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

cant help it...:-(((

btw u have been tagged...
chk my space:-))

mahek said...

Hi jigyasa,
Truely an very aptly written article as we all,tend to forget that life is too small to love and to be loved and in between the moments are stolen by anger, sometimes bcoz we were not able to represent what we actually want to say, and sometimes what we actually say hurts others.
Though I generally got angry when I saw something wrong happening around ,it fumes me and I lost my control on tongue or sometimes just tight my bottlecock and try to avoid the situation . But the tyranny is then I became angry with myself as could not speak the truth.Hehehe.. So the circle goes on. But its true that anger spoils 60 secs of happiness.

mahek:)

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Chakoli,

Chaks...I hope the week is even coming better!!! And there are more smiles then frown.....but whats this.....

Me tagged again!!!!! Gimme some time!!

Keep Smiling!!

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Mahek

Welcome to my space....I agree to what you have said, and yes life doesnt offers the chance to say things as they are, always!! And thats a good enough reason to feel irritated n may be angry but still the control over the tongue and balanced approach is inavitable. I hope you agree to this.

Keep visiting. Keep Smiling!!

Busybee said...

:-)) easier said than done actually.

but life does teach lessons one never forgets... or rather it mellows u down over time.

Ellen said...

These are good quotes. And you did well with each. :-)

Btw, I wrote you an email just awhile ago. Let me know if it got through to you without a hitch.

See you around.
Blessings to you and your family.

Vamsi said...

@ jigyasa ...
good one ...

vijay said...

Hie Jigyasa,

probably my 1st visit 2 ur post. & what u write @ is such an important aspect, specially in todays world.

we get angry at the other person cause he/she has not thought &/or acted the we want him/her to.

& we not only end up wasting the 60 seconds of hapiness but also gradually hurting ourselves, our body chemistry :((

vs

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Busybee

Thanks for your visit. Agree to what you have said, but still trying to control anger seems a worthy effort.

@ Ellen

Thanks for your visit and review. Be thr always!! :-)

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Vamsi

After a long time...thanks anyways!!

Keep Visiting.

@ VS

This was your second visit and I thank you for that. Yes, I agree that in present scenario managing anger & stress is a big deal. And you have mentioned a very good point i.e. getting angry does harms oneself too.

Keep Visiting.

Keep Smiling!!

vibhuti said...

well i see a lot...a lot of people suffer from what i suffer- anger and you are right no amount of books on anger management actually help...i really love how you have used the qoutes....great work!!!
btw for people who want to conrol their anger can log on www.ndtvgoodtimes.com, its got a leisure section which is great!!

Naimesh said...

Sometimes getting angry is a good quality...remember goddess durga?....getting angry leads to destruction...and destruction of old things leads to the creation of new, better things

Anyone can become angry -- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way -- this is not easy.

Naimesh said...

Sometimes getting angry is a good quality...remember goddess durga?....getting angry leads to destruction...and destruction of old things leads to the creation of new, better things

Anyone can become angry -- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way -- this is not easy.