Monday, March 24, 2008

Nothing is serious!!!!

Life a bed of roses. Having read a post by Ellen today morning, I have been wondering that Life is a bed of roses.
Did you say - not always??? Well it is indeed.
I liked saying that, as it leave me with a positive note. And otherwise also I hate myself for being negative at times when Life pushes me too much.
Life is a bed of roses. Only the color of roses keep changing. Remember, Roses are in white, pink, yellow, orange and red color. But don’t you miss the Black Rose. Similarly, life has got different colors and the situations & circumstances keep on giving it one and another shade thereafter. And then roses have horns too. That could be taken as a life’s decision to push one so hard that ultimately one bleeds.
I remember a brief conversation here, when I had asked about the well being of a friend and since its so recent, that my thoughts flew in that very direction when I pondered about Life & Roses.
Me: Hey how are you? You look sad. Is everything fine. I hope nothing is serious.
Friend: nothing serious......its just a change which is sometimes undesirable, expectations unmet and some general things giving a feeling of disrespect to myself, sometimes a little guilt and sometimes too many tears in my eyes confuse me about my existence.
But don’t you worry. Nothing is serious.
Now I am not worried, its just that I could not reach to an answer as to, how a rock solid person like my friend could end up fighting tears. A person so strong, tough headed, so learnt from life not to get welled up easily and now struggling to fight her own tears. This raises a question to me. Even though, I am told that she is determined to be happy (she says determined, not destined) I still feel some loss for this. Because some loss has happened to a person, to a soul, to someone’s respect and to someone’s trust. Also I have a feeling that may be she is taking it just too seriously and she doesn’t needs to. May be its because almost everybody feels that way.
People tend to take it so normally as nothing has happened. People don’t feel bad because they are used to of changes, yes I mean the undesired changes. They do not know the words dreams and expectations for their own self, they believe that its their duty to live up to the expectations & dreams of their surroundings and they are fine spending (did you read wasting) a life for this. Now still what is itching me here is, a strong headed, self-motivated, almost self-earned person is telling me that I pray to god for peace or to rest in peace. I did see tears in her eyes!
People who are change averse face this kind of a situation. I will be wrong to say this. I guess it happens when a self-driven person who has learned this art after too much of effort is been told to hand over the steering of life in someone else’s hands. And even then, is required to be a silent observer all through the ride.

I don’t know. I am myself trying to find out all these answers for my friend. I want her to be happy as always. She is my best friend who I always relied. I want her to be a free-spirit again.
I wish her more smiles. Amen!


Chakoli said...


Bed of roses....To some extent Yups...but it alwyas comes with throns...:-))))

Ur frd would surely be a free bird soon....A "dua" asked with pure sure to be fulfilled:-))

Ellen said...

Hi, Jigyasa!

Beautiful piece! You took a different view from mine, in some way. But beautiful still. I like the way you wrote it... "life is a bed of roses'.

Now don't worry bout your friend. She'll be fine. Although she must go through those different times of her life but she will also come out of it. That's for sure.

Thank you for your lovely and inspiring message in my blog. So delighted that you dropped by. Take care always. Blessings to you and your dear ones.

sm said...


man how are you?

life is a different shade of roses .... i like that thought.

Jiyo lyf !! said...

hey jigyasa,

Dont worry dear !!

look thr r tyms in lyf which break evn the strongest body is perfect..sorrow is bound to affect u but remember tym is the greates healer...i feel ur frnd will surely be f9..just tell her this to console her "God tests only those who he feels is capable of winning" whether he succeeds or not is completelt diff ball game but if he is capable then he shouldnt lose evn b4 trying..." may b ur frnd will feel better...sorrows or in my terms call it "challenges" r part n parcel of lyf ..they r inevitable..what 1 needs is courage..

Chakoli said...

Good morning dear...

seems to be tooo busy??

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

Thanks everbody for the visit & giving strength to ma friend through your words of wisdom.

And sorry for the delay but I was travelling.

Keep coming. Keep Smiling!!!


Naserke said...

'ਤੇ ਦੋਸਤੀ
ਦੋਸਤੀ ਕਿਸੇ ਸੂਫ਼ੀ ਫਕੀਰ ਦਾ ਚੋਲਾ.
ਜਿਸ ਦੀ ਫਿਟਿੰਗ ਦਾ ਕੋਈ ਨੰਬਰ ਨਹੀ ਹੁੰਦਾ
ਜੋ ਦੀਵਾਨਗੀ ਦਾ ਫਰੀ ਸਾਈਜ਼ ਹੈ
ਜਿਸ ਵਿੱਚ ਦਮ ਨਹੀਂ ਘੁਟਦਾ'
ਜੋ ਤਨ ਦੀਆਂ ਟਾਕੀਆਂ ਭਾਵੇਂ ਨਾ ਬਣ ਸਕੇ
ਪਰ ਮਨ ਦਾ ਲਿਬਾਸ ਜਰੂਰ ਬਣ ਜਾਂਦਾ ਹੈ

Ellen said...

Hi Jigyasa,

Dropped by to say Hello. Should have come earlier ... then I would have seen the Tag game. Thanks for the tag; am gonna do it! But give me some time cos am going to squeeze it inbetween the chores lols! :-D Plus the errands that have to be done. Oh gee, it all comes in a big heap sometimes. :-)

See yah soon in here.
Blessings to you.
And love it when you drop by
my place. :-)
Ciao for a bit!

shoOOonya said...

Never saw the 'life is a bed of roses' that way earlier .. with all those colours and shades !!

I could identify with every word you wrote !!

Keep writing ... u r a treat to read !

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Naserke

Thanks for the visit and the wonderful review. I had to get it translated though .....but nevermind its a pleasure to read Sufi saints @ times.

Keep Visiting & Keep Smiling

@ Ellen

I am waiting to read the tag of 8 on your blog. Have checked....but seems you are yet to take it.

Looking fwd to that...

Keep Smiling

@ Shoooonya

Thanks for the visit and for being there as always.

Your observations & tips means a lot.

Be the same. Keep Smiling

vs said...

Hie Jigyasa,

my first time here & roses is a gr8 way 2 start.

Like someone said "
" You can find thorns in roses or roses in thorns, the choice is yours "

Yet I believe that its the persons attitude towards life. 2 sisters coud contrast absolutely in the way they look 2 life. the "Chalta hai" approach keeps a person Ok. The person who is particular @ details, doing things right etc..too many does & donts & its a formula for stress in life .

Yet all r different & in various situations the same person cud react differently :-))


Vamsi said...

@ jigyasa ...

ok then ... chop off the thorns and make your life a bed of roses !

whats the big deal in that ?

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ VS

Very true, whether one picks roses or thorns.....its completely an individual choice. But its just that sometimes there is something left undone even when we make a choice. Btw,thanks for introducing me to the stress formula....not many actually do that.

Keep Visiting...Keep smiling!!

@ Vamsi,

Chop off the thorns.......!!Seems like you havent yet left the kitchen after cooking the biryani.

Nevermind...thanks for visiting.

Ellen said...

Hi Jigyasa,

When you have the time, drop over to my page and see the TAG of 8's. Sorry it took awhile; did it on my downtime away from family concerns. :-)

I had fun with it. Thanks for the pleasure. :-)

Wish you all the best in life.
God bless you and your family.

Chakoli said...

nthing new dear...seems busy??

mahek said...

Hey jigyasa,
I cant say how much I am helped reading your this article as till now I was considering myself alone in the battle through adversies which have stolen the smiles but now I can portray 1 of my friend writing this article about me(i mean I can visualise myself at ur friends place) but still we fight bcoz we have never seen ourselves down.

And i think ur frnd also have the spirit to fight back. Once she would be able to revive herself and come over her adversies and she will regain the speed of her life as God takes care of people who are raesons for others smiles and I believe ur friend is one of them.:D

Keep smiling and writing

Sensitive:-) Jigyasa said...

@ Mahek

Thanks for wishing the best for ma friend....and yes Life isnt a bed of has got different shades like that of roses. Take some time out n read my post abt this....

Untill then, take care n keep smiling!!