Tuesday, September 8, 2009

OPRAH WINFREY ON RELATIONSHIPS......!

This is just an e-mail fwd., quite good & interesting read..........


WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
Even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...
Compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...
There is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.*
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships
that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil

You should know that:
You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices.
Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices,
and another woman prepare.

8 comments:

Ellen said...

Hi Jigyasa,

At my age now and having come to this point in my life, I know and can say that the article is true. The best thing that a woman could ever remember is... even if you lose your man, don't ever Ever EVER lose yourself! :-)

Thanks for sharing the beautiful piece. It's wisdom to its core. Lol!

Take care.
God bless you n your family.

Lust4Life said...

Hi Jigs,

I liked ur post :)
Intelligence personified!


Love,Live,Laughter
Lust4Life

Jigyasa said...

@ Ellen

Yes indeed a b'ful piece and if one reads with a calm mind....one understands in agreement :-)

Keep Smiling Ellen

Jigyasa said...

@ Lusty

I cudnt take my eyes off in awe that you actually got time to visit my space.....thanQ thanQ. miss u

I hope peace prevails at your end.

Be yourself. Keep Smiling Lusty!

Sapphire said...

thanks for sharing :) it was a good read!

Jack said...

Jigyasa,

Navigated from Ellen's space. Read all available posts. Keep your dreams alive even if temporarily you can not follow them up. You will be able to do so sometime or the other in near future. Nice poem Dad's girl. Visit to Shillong, full of fun. We stayed in Shillong from 1976 to 1979 and believe you me it was such a fun. Advice by Oprah, well I agree with most but few seem to be out of context to our society.

I will visit your other spaces too. If you find time, do visit me and read as many posts as you can leaving your views.

Take care

Anonymous said...

Wow!....I don't even know how to say this other than....Thank you!...I felt as if you were talking to me directly. This is exactly what is going on in my relationship. I broke it off and now he wants back in. And this article really helped me to realize that i need to step up and control this situation and stop letting him hurt me....I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this....THANK YOU!

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