Friday, February 22, 2008


Intransigence is all what a person needs most to live. When I say ‘to live’, I mean not to be ‘undead’. One has to understand that the priority always should be ‘To have a happy oneself’. If one is not happy from inside, he/she can’t be a better sibling, a better partner, a better child, a better professional or even a better person.

Intransigence is something which never lets you feel low, feel inferior and feel forced. I know, the word may sound derogatory at times, but the word is powerful as it tells us to withstand to self beliefs and values.

Imperfections are good when one needs to know the weaknesses and realizing the imperfections becomes the strength. But before that one needs to find out the problem, sometimes unnecessary problems occur when we start underestimating ourselves under the influence of others. That time what helps is self-talk. This could be done if one practices what Lucille Ball
once said,

I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.

I have always been saying in my previous posts (On, that, Love is a misused word. I still go by that. In a relationship, many a time love is just not enough. A relationship needs things which are beyond love. No, I am not saying ‘Devotion’, in the practical world, nobody expects that actually. It’s more of give 'n' take these days. You respect someone- you deserve respect. You love someone – you expect love and if you care- you need to be cared too.

Changes occur and few of them are inevitable. What matters here is, that one needs to appreciate the conscious/unconscious changes which life brings in, and most of the times these changes force one to change the life philosophies and if one is not able to do so, that signifies that life is loosing the purpose or may be the person starts loosing the purpose of his/her existence. This is the time one needs to be candid, plain, one needs to be Intransigent.

In short, as Janis Joplin once said,
“Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you've got.”

And remember, Joseph Campbell’s words,
“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.”

Keep Faith, Keep Smiling!


Ellen said...

Hi Sensitive,

A very interesting post. You have shot up in the air several thoughts with this piece. Amazing how you could pack in several in one sitting. :-)

I would like to put in a few bits to one thought -- into the word 'intransigence' in the context of it's meaning 'stubbornness'. If used in a more positive way... Stubbornness if taken wisely smartly can propel us forward towards achieving our goals or dreams. It transforms itself into a much sought after quality known as persistence or 'sticktoitiveness'. This is quite a powerful force to contend with.

Stubbornness to defend one's beliefs and values, to pursue one's dreams no matter how difficult they may seem, to welcome change and push ourselves out of our comfort zones --- this form of stubbornness will surely help us journey this life well.

I look forward to more interesting posts from you. It's nice to see you here in blogspot too. Take care and God bless you and your family.

Ellen :-)

Lust4Life said...

Hiiiii Ssmiley :)

This is sthg damn interesting..
To be honest, I hav never heard this word 'Intransigence'..

I liked many things that u hav written in this post. The best line wud b 'Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line'.

Gud to see u back in action :D:D
Great going swthrt!!


Chakoli said...

Hi Jigyasa:-)))

You seem to very sensitive and emotional...:-)))

nice read up althou...I agree one need to be selfish at times.... but one also need to learn to sacrifice as well... love is not only take but to give.....:-)))

I like the mkost when u said....ina relation ship love is not the only thing...indeed... love is just pone componennet of it.... there are many things to be learnt and implemented...:-)))

keep Faith

Jigyasa said...

Thank you

Ellen - For helping me understand things better.

Lusty - For just being there always. I missed you all these days.

Chakoli - For visiting my post and indeed to review the post also. And for telling me to Keep Faith like you do always!!

Chakoli said...

Anytime sweetie:-)))