Resilient Decisions

 Recently, I had written briefly about celebrating decisions. May be that was the result of a happy mind set, a content soul. And today after reading some posts of my friends – I am once again contemplating about the decisions. Yes, one must celebrate decisions and to celebrate them you need to stick to them, work on them and live them.

Today I am wondering – is it good to postpone decisions for the sake of today.

May be it is. Situations and circumstance do not remain same all the time.  It becomes tough to concentrate and keep the positivity switch on. But then, this isn’t completely impossible.  Yes, it is easier to find reasons and excuses but at the same time – it is easier to find the solutions and tough to execute them. Sometimes things just don’t click but that certainly doesn’t mean we should stop. That only suggests that we need to walk another mile.

People won’t understand you all the time. They aren’t supposed to do so. We have to keep our great expectations – fine tuned.  You would know the reasons and your job is to correct the incorrect, do not fall prey to negative environment around you. Remember, you have a dream and you have decided to celebrate that dream by living it up. Remember, no matter what it is today or how it is today but tomorrow you have to shine.

If it is not happening NOW

Then believe it and work towards it. If something is not happening now that doesn’t means something will never happen. It is in our hands, our own mind. Remember, if something is not clicking today that doesn’t mean it won’t click tomorrow too. Remember, every day is a new day and we have got to try hard. Honest efforts are bound to give results – it’s just that they take a little while.

Do not regret

Regret is a complete no. We shall not regret for the things those are gone by. It worked or not – regret won’t do any help. Yes, constant efforts should be there so that we do not regret about the time wasted with wrong people, negative emotions and lazy surroundings. Remember, once we realize a wrong it shall be instantly made right. There is not right or wrong time to do the right thing. Get up and get going.

Remember, if you are sure of what you want and you ensure what you have decided is achievable. It is achievable. Resilience and Perseverance backed with right efforts are certainly the magic traits.

Intransigence

Intransigence is all what a person needs most to live. When I say ‘to live’, I mean not to be ‘undead’. One has to understand that the priority always should be ‘To have a happy oneself’. If one is not happy from inside, he/she can’t be a better sibling, a better partner, a better child, a better professional or even a better person.

Intransigence is something which never lets you feel low, feel inferior and feel forced. I know, the word may sound derogatory at times, but the word is powerful as it tells us to withstand to self beliefs and values.

Imperfections are good when one needs to know the weaknesses and realizing the imperfections becomes the strength. But before that one needs to find out the problem, sometimes unnecessary problems occur when we start underestimating ourselves under the influence of others. That time what helps is self-talk. This could be done if one practices what Lucille Ball once said,

I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.

I have always been saying in my previous posts (On, http://o3.indiatimes.com/learnwithtaurian) that, Love is a misused word. I still go by that. In a relationship, many a time love is just not enough. A relationship needs things which are beyond love. No, I am not saying ‘Devotion’, in the practical world, nobody expects that actually. It’s more of give 'n' take these days. You respect someone- you deserve respect. You love someone – you expect love and if you care- you need to be cared too.

Changes occur and few of them are inevitable. What matters here is, that one needs to appreciate the conscious/unconscious changes which life brings in, and most of the times these changes force one to change the life philosophies and if one is not able to do so, that signifies that life is loosing the purpose or may be the person starts loosing the purpose of his/her existence. This is the time one needs to be candid, plain, one needs to be Intransigent.

In short, as Janis Joplin once said, “Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you've got.”

And remember, Joseph Campbell’s words, “Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.”

Keep Faith, Keep Smiling!