A haunting night of an accident:|

It was 11pm and we were returning back to home after meeting my grand mom in Delhi. We were talking over and driving at 70-80 like all other cars on the MG road. A sudden jolt made us realize that our car is hit and then those scary few seconds while our Car rotated on the road and got hit again on the right side. By the time I came to senses, I realized that we are alive and now our car is stopped after a 280 degree round.

As I poked on the side….I could see the white Ford Endeavor, the driver of which had lost control and hit us. Eventually I found myself telling Rohit to keep calm as outside we could see some guys who were very much in control of alcohol. He just got down after instructing me to call 100. The guys seemed to us as educated men who actually had realized that they were at mistake and have done what was already done to us. I was still explaining the episode to the guys on 100 and then PCR with a shivering voice while they very leisurely kept on asking whether the accident took place in Gurgaon or Delhi etc etc.  

Anyways while the people who hit had readily agreed to get our car re-done as they were aware that they are the ones who are under the influence of alcohol and they just hit us for no mistake of ours.  And then as we were talking to them, one more gentleman who was there told that actually it was him who got hit first and then as his Santro moved towards the side lane with a tyre burst we were the ones who suffered drastically. 

During all this, no one from the PCR could reach the site in 40 minutes. I was disgusted as this gentleman said that our little car would be done in few bucks and they will have to get their endeavor will cost too much; where I just reminded them that it is them who are drunk and it is them who smashed us for no reason. Then there were other notorious passer-by who commented that one should not worry about accidents in slang like accent & tampered speech – again due to alcohol. Then were those who got at the scene & were ready to fight for them – I must mention they were not acquainted to them. I still feel so bad & shocked.

We spent entire yesterday sorting the matter out as the gentleman who had hit us after coming to senses started negotiating on the car compensation. On an FIR, the Hyundai guy refused to even be mentioned as his Dad refused and moreover he requested that he shall not even be named as an eyewitness. Those who were totally at wrong wanted to pay half the money as now they were arrogant enough in telling that – how will we prove they were drunk? And the PCR very rudely asked us over the phone, if we need help after the ford endeavor had left the scene on the eventful night after exchanging the phone numbers. I am so glad that there were no causalities as I am sure why the number of deaths is too high in our country because they enquire so much on phones that a vulnerable dying life cannot be sustained.

While I still recover from this shock, our car is under repair as we share the expense borne due to some irresponsible class of youth in the series of an unfortunate hit & again hit case.  Still I would say that they are cooperating, may be because they realized the mistake or may be because of fear.

I am glad that we are saved & I am glad that we have friends who stood by us while the others gave reasons of no concerns. While we can always forget & forgive anything….those few seconds when the car was rotating & we survived being hit from front are haunting. But I keep faith & thank god for he stayed by our side and we survived.

Keep Hope - Anyway.

Yesterday evening while walking in my balcony, I suddenly felt that it’s good to take it easy. Believe me I had been going through a terrible mindset with the series of event in the last fifteen days.  A person as positive as me got hit by circumstances and I started feeling shattered. As a result of which, I couldn't do my work at all, concentration – is been taken by thoughts of unreasonable people at work, complicated business scenario, hiding luck, unbelieving parents, TV remote, Facebook, chats etc. I have been actually thinking of dropping all the ambitions, projects, my dream run and everything. I reached a stage of comparisons & complaints. Gosh! And then I found this picture…for some reason I had kept it on my desktop.

Situations can be turned memorable with a smile -Keep Hope

Yes, it is up to me whether I come back to my sacred space with peaceful mindset of keep worrying about the currently loitering life. Every morning I wake up with a plan and sleep at night cribbing about another waste day.  Earlier if it was an 8 hours of productive work a day, now it is only 1 hour (I still doubt on that). Today I thought to share and unleash the burden. Believe me; I should be working right now…huh!

Now I took a break and tried to concentrate on my work. And guess what – there were things which disturbed me and then there are equal ways to release the tensions and I am so glad that I am slowly getting out of this phase also.In the meantime the following happened and I am happy that it happened:

My friend called me and we had a conversation for an hour – Ah! I am so relieved and then my other friend advised me through my blog – in a patient scolding manner and I am pretty much back on track.  I am so glad they exist.  I am getting geared up for my next project.

Things which disturbed me are like work situations, unreasonable clients, family pressures etc but then

People are unreasonable- we need to forgive them anyway. Right!

Situations are not always as we want. We need to face them –anyway.

Efforts are always counted but at times results get delayed. Make efforts - anyway.

And believe me; it is good to take it easy. But we need to work hard –anyway. 

Life do turns hopeless. Keep Hope - anyway.

Birthday Thoughts...:)

Yesterday morning….while I entered into another b'day of my life...I had some thoughts. Though I got calls from my family at 12 the night before and they were happy to wish me a happy birthday. They are happy that I am here….I exist as a part of their life.

Similarly, I am glad that I am given a chance to be me. Sometimes we have to be glad about ourselves. This morning that is what I told God and I thanked him to be with me like always. I thanked him for giving me the courage, the patience and the zeal to do things for good. Then I remembered my guru’s who are always by my side preaching goodness and instilling faith in me.

Then came those good people who remembered me, few have been with me for a reason or a season. But my goodness, the wishes were inspiring and made my day. I felt a little more special and I smiled. I am at peace that, they exist and I am glad I exist in close proximity of such wonderful people.

I am putting in here something which a teammate now friend sent to me yesterday morning. We have a relationship filled of respect and mutual admiration. I am going to cherish this gesture…the time spent on creating this for me, makes me feel special and worthy of finding happiness in little things. Isn’t it beautiful?

Stepping on a birthday ladder brings so many more queries in my mind. Life seems to be curious like me…..growing up is fun as it brings me to peace, keeps me calm and serene. I have learnt to keep patience, to give, to share and to be happy. I have learnt it is all a state of mind.

I worry about my anger – especially when I can’t control it with my mom. She still is the most tolerant when it comes about me. But then she understands the feelings, the unexpressed lot which bounces out only when she is around. I hope I get better this year on this front.

Recently, I have realized at times I am too vulnerable. I want to work towards that. I tend to lose spirits quite easily and start dreaming of a free-bird life which is practically difficult. But whatever be the case – I am truly the same freespirit – aspiring & dreaming big which each passing day :)

Believe!

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. 

~ Steve Jobs, Co-Founder and CEO of Apple Comp

Breathless Life :(

So unfair but yet so true…

It’s not just me & not just you…

Sometime or the other….

We say it so….what we tend to live is a Breathless Life!

There is this rush…

My god so hush-hush

Chasing & running…what a world we live

Do we actually live?

Spinning life…..the Breathless Life!

No time for life….no time for books

All we worry about is meetings, travel, work etc

We think we are living -----wonder is this life?

Life is what comes…….are we ready for it?

Life is to live…..Ah! It’s a Breathless Life!

Toys are replaced with gadgets…

Bedside stories…..or iphone songs….

Am running…you are running….are we catching up btw?

With the Breathless Life!

I miss my mom….I miss my Dad….

I want to be with them….by their side….

But it’s stopping me always…

It’s my Breathless Life!

Friends….we catch up regularly

Yeah at times on gtalk at times on fb and at others on blog

But over a chat….it’s a lifetime dream…

We are all very busy with the Breathless Life!

Impesshye Kohima! (Thank you Kohima…) - Kohima Diaries 4

Well! Tomorrow morning I start my travel at 9am. I will be back to Delhi – waiting for me is work, pending meetings, stretched traffic signals, unconventional weather, Gurgaon’s power cuts, running life and a lot to rush. Last 3-4 days, I have been feeling the heat already!

The beautiful valley of ‘Kohima’ – introduced to me the simplest life I ever thought of. I actually had never thought of a life without television, with a struggle for vegetarian food, with a walking habit and me finding the time for it and lot of time for soul searching, with a routine of waking up at 7am and going back to bed around 9.30pm or 10pm at night and beyond this, never feeling the need for a day to get any longer. It was all said n done during the day and I could get a peaceful sleep as I was never worried or in a rush to get up another morning with a lot of post-its on my mind. Ah! Such a pleasure n peace it has been for last 20 days.

And back home, many-a-times I wanted the day to get longer as 24 hours were not enough. If it isn’t work always, it can be catching up with a friend, visiting a party, dating Rohit, having a peaceful lunch/dinner, visiting parents etc., we lose many a times on a most of such simple & important things. All because of ‘The Rush’ –this is one thing I never saw/felt/heard or experienced in Kohima. Amazing city – it gave me time to observe, think and do some soul searching. So the curiosity of why so different has now turned into something like – ‘Different is simple and simple is good’.

And for the experience I would like to say ‘Thanks’ to the Department Of Technical Education, Kohima for giving me the opportunity to be a part of their Integrated Program of Advanced Retail Management and experience an altogether different yet beautiful life.

My Take-Away’s from the brief Visit:

   ‘Uncomplicate Life’: Life is only complicated if we make it that way. We need to find peace in simple things. People out here are so simple and yet so satisfied. What are you rushing for?

2.       ‘Do not compare’: Somehow, I felt that life here is beautiful because no one believes in any kind of comparisons. Everybody is happy with whatever they are blessed with and of course, at their own levels they are trying to improve it. Again with no rush, they have their faith and their hard work. Their minds are at peace.

3.       ‘Prioritize & communicate’:  People here know their priorities right. They don’t do things for pleasing others; they don’t burden themselves with unnecessary tensions. They know their priority and communicate with so much ease.

4.       ‘Be Proud of your Place’: One should be proud of the place one belongs and should be respectful about where it started – the journey called ‘Life’.

 [Yes, though people here are lazy to take up things and to initiate but surely the Government & Youth are bound to spread awareness and the best thing is wherever they learn or earn, they are all eager to come back & contribute to their city, their state.]  We all think like that at some point or the other but how many of us actually do that? And the people – I have met have no religious or conservative motives – they just want to be back and do something here – at their land of festivals.

5.       ‘Love & Affection’: Yes, I am taking back lot of love & affection from the people here. Their simplicity mesmerized me at various levels. My students were like a bunch of variety in many ways. They weren’t street smart like those from metro geographies but they were sincere & eager to learn & experience new things. They accepted the course & change with open arms. I made a very good friend here – who not only took me around to places but also helped me understand the culture and people here. And all these people gave me wonderful memories.

6.       ‘Judgments are not good’:  I always believed in ‘no early judgments’ and people close to me know that I do not jump on judgment easily. This visit helped me reinforce my belief. People here shall not be judged on what they have experienced & are exposed to because we need to understand the pitch of life we have and they have. We have gained speed and momentum and we are busy chasing happiness in the form of jobs, money, exposure, achievement etc and they have earned peace with the very belief – we are here to live –happily.

Are you wondering again – How?

Kohima Diaries- 3, Kohima War Cementry

When You Go Home, Tell Them Of Us And Say,

For Their Tomorrow, We Gave Our Today"

Saturday, we visited the Kohima War Cementry. I have never been to such a place before so it was slightly difficult for me to explore and learn about such a place where a war was fought and people had died saving that place.

It was even disheartening to know that there also lay the graves of warriors who died an unknown death as their identities couldn’t be traced. My heart mellowed thinking about their families. Rohit, my husband who has a deep interest in history told me about the Tennis Court around which the British Indian troupes fought the Japanese.

Though I was happy that people here are proud of this place and CWG is maintaining it in a very respectful way. It is not commercialized though it always flashes on Nagaland Tourism. You can actually read out the names of those who fought here and lost their lives, those who were in any which way a part of those battalions.

Walking down from the War Cementry- we found an Aircraft which was very much a part of World War II but is now placed inside the Governor’s residing premises so we couldn’t click it. But it was devastating to find the tank of World War II in such a pathetic condition with lot of beer bottles, canes and filth loitered around.  We wondered – why in the world is the government ignorant about this.

All in all – a great experience with lot of mingling thoughts about those who actually gave their lives for our today and tomorrow.